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Episode 12 · 2 years ago

Social Distancing and Mental Health

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On this episode of Inside The Margins,

Patti and Matt discuss the importance of mental health during this period of social distancing.

Marginalized groups can be the target of negative beliefs, behaviors or judgments from others. On this show we seek out marginalized voices and perspectives and tackle some of the conflicts and issues these groups face. Now is the time to have your voice heard. This is inside the margins with your host, Matt Wilson. Wello, and welcome to this edition of inside the margins. I'm your host, Matt Wilson. These are definitely some difficult times right now. A lot of people are being forced to stay at home and even work from home, and petty and I are both kind of doing that today, so we're kind of via satellite with each other, but we are still going to bring you the stories that are important to you and your community, and I'm glad that Patty decide to stay on board with this throughout this crisis. So thank you, Patty, for remaining remaining a part of the show. You are very valuable to the show and we appreciate that. Well, and my technological expertise is increasing, I'd like to say exponentially, but it's not as painful. It's a painful for all, for my technological learning a lot from working from home we done? Yeah, hopefully, like I so we obviously have no idea how long this crisis is going to last and I assume things will probably get better worse before they get better. So I guess we'Min everyone to hang in there and do the best they can. But well, I said, Patty and I are going to are going to still bring you these stories. We think it's important to you to have the news that you've asked for. So we're going to do that and without for the delay. From the minority reporter. Here is patty singer. Hello, Patty, Hi'm hi, Matt So, Rochester's Police Accountability Board has posted a help wanted sign. The board has finalized the job description for its executive director and that was posted march thirteen on the city's website. Annual salary ranges from seventy two thousand dollars in a little more to a little bit over ninety fivezero dollars. Preference who? We give it to candidates with a background in criminal justice law or experience with a Sevillian Civilian Review Board, and the person who is chosen for the position must live in the city or move into the city within one year of being hired. In maintain that residency for the length of their time that they are the executive director Rochester City School District Superintendent talked about the budget, covid nineteen and an adjusted Prek plan. City School District Superintendent, Terry Dade, was supposed to introduce the two thousand and twenty one budget on march seventeen. That has been pushed back to March twenty four because of the covid situation. The Superintendent and the mayor at previously worked on a plan to give school children meals at a selected reck centers and also selected school buildings. The biggest thing to come out of that meeting with the school board was a change to the Prek plan. The PREK plan for schools forty four and fifty seven will now include first grade for special education students. The covid situation changes daily, if not hourly. The county at one point had reported eight new covid nineteen cases in one day. That had brought the total at that point to fourteen. As of March nineteen, the county had thirty confirming cases of covid nineteen. One person had died. Health Department officials are busy tracing the contacts of people who have tested positive to see if their contacts need to be isolated quarantine or if they also need to be tested. Howard University has canceled it's two thousand and twenty...

...commencement after reporting its first direct coronavirus case. The Email Statement University President Wayne Frederick said that in Attendee of a Charter Day dinner held on March seventh it tested positive for Covid nineteen. In addition to the commencement being canceled, class reunions also have been canceled. Do you know by now there has been no march madness in our opinion pages, doing malveow says that the spread of the coronavirus reveals weaknesses in the armor of this country, which some describe as the greatest country in the world. The coronavirus has been declared a pandemic, which is a world emergency, and she says that the US has been woefully unprepared to manage this emergency. She says the focus of the current administration has been to slash the public sector and provide tax breaks for the wealthy. Public Health has not been a priority for the trump administration and she says that managing a world pandemic is beyond the capacity of the private sector. Rom Or Leon writes that the dangers of rights of the dangers of binary politics for the African American community. He writes that as America models its way through these perilous times, too many in the African African American community appeared to be more confused than ever. He says that the African American community has traded our interest in electability and anybody but trump. Former and WACP board chairman Julian Bond said that we have no permanent friends and no permanent enemies, just permanent interests. By failing to develop, understand and articulate a permanent interest in agenda, we ond writes that black black Americans called victim to the problem of binary politics, the either or scenario that back in Rochester, community agencies are meeting needs during this covid nineteen crisis. Even before the first confirmed case was announced on March, twelve officials in Monroe County and in Rochester were preparing for when covid nineteen would hit. However, there are may be specific needs or concerns that affect populations of color and that could be Spanish speakers who need information in their preferred language, or African Americans with chronic diseases who may need to be more aware of their health risk. Organization such as the urban wage and the idea American action wague are meeting the needs of their of their clients. And in politics around covid there were three local candidates for different offices signed a letter to the governor requesting a change in the petition process. The letter from Sulvano or see of gates and and Lewis Rochester, who were running in a one hundred thirty seven assembly and Hilda Rosario Escher, who's running for the fifty six district, set it. See wrote a letter to the to the governor and to health officials, saying that the petition process should be ended out of an abundance of concern, and on March fifteen, Governor Andrew Cuomo signed an executive order that does truncate the petition process. That is a process where candidates go door to door or facetoface and ask people to sign petition so that they can get vallet that. Thank you so much, Patti. Well, as you, as you know, and I known as the majority of people listening do know information about what's happening with covid nineteen updates almost every hour, even sometimes faster than that. There's always new information about death raids or people who have been infected with the virus. So I didn't want to focus on that because the best way to keep yourself updated on what's going on is to make sure you, you know, are tuned into headline news and also to the CDC. Those are probably your...

...best ways to get accurate and up to date information as to what's going on. But what I did want to talk about today with Patty a lot of people who are stuck home do our stuck home with their children. Some have their their mothers and fathers who are maybe elderly, living with them, and it can be tough because, you know, obviously, while you were before this happened, the majority of us had our children in schools or daycare or pre K or something like that. I also have children, so during the week it's a little tough for me as well, because my children now home. So getting things done is a little, a little, a little, a little tough, but we are we're managing through it and what I want to do is we want to focus on things you can do or the ways you can talk to your children about covid nineteen and the ways they can keep themselves clean and and stopped from spreading the disease, and I believe Dr Mendoza did talk about that a little bit. At my correct on Matt Patty, well, we talked about there's a what I think is the the unaddressed mental health ramifications of covid nineteen and at a news conference on on Thursday, on March nineteen, in which the testing process was explained, the Health Commissioner, Dr Michael Mendoza, was addressed the the anxiety right round around covid nineteen and around. We didn't really talk about, you know, being how he really talk about how you know how to deal with it. Okay, now your kids are home. It's it's it's yeah, it's more more with the break, but it talked about and it's kind of what I want to talk about is is I think that there's so much to be concerned about with with how is this transmitted? Am I going to get this? There's no toilet paper in the grocery store. Mean theres a Lo lot of these daytoday things that we don't really deal with in this country. Of many of us, excuse me, there are a lot of people this country who do deal with every single day. How are they going to get through that day? There are a lot of us have never had to deal with that until now, right this day. I am I going to have enough food? What's what's happening out there? So there are a couple things that I'd like to talk about that I came across. There's some there was some guy, he's issue from the University of Rochester, Their Warner School of Education. There was a school counseling expert, Bonnie Rubinstein, had sent out through the university some tips to help parents with with their with their kids. And also, you know, if we do have time, and I do want to talk about some people may have heard of Tony Porter. Tony Porter came up with the concept of the man box, which is how men are supposed to act culturally, society, things like that, and he also has some suggestions for for men during this time. So we talk about the family answer, because men are men, are part of the family too. And if you're in the man box, how do you how do you address your family? You know, how do you deal with with some of the family implications. Okay, so, so real quick from Counselor Bonnie Rubinstein to help parents and caregivers to help their kids stay calm. These can be overwhelming and stressful times for everyone, including kids. But, as we all know, kids will pick up on what their parents not so much of what they're saying, but what they're feeling, how they're looking and how they're acting to what you're rejecting. Is Very, very important. Listening, be supportive, talk about they talk about, kind of you know, in an active listening kind of kind of way. Let the kids raise and share their own concerns, but you reflect back on that...

...and try to get them to say a little bit more about what they're feeling. And it's really it's okay to say, Hey, I'm I'm a little worried about this too, and then I don't follow the conversation from that. To be honest and accurate, give the accurate information. Emphasized that the children are going to be safe, that the parents and teachers are there to keep them safe. That's the top priority for them, encouraging healthy habits and actually was it was interesting. There was Terry Daves, who pretended had a news conference the other day, one of the few in person news conferences that was it was it was kind of interesting after all the social distancing where we were all standing next to each other. But he said the same thing. You know, go out and run around, not with too many of your neighborhood kids, but but go on and run around right and I think a big one. Man. We talked about this before we got on the errors limiting social media. I think that that is key. It's absolutely there really isn't anything there you really need to see because, as you mentioned, the CDC, Monroe County Dot Goog, city of Rochester dotcom, these are the places of people in our community are going to get the information they need. They really need. Use Right, not what somebody want a friend is sending out right. All right, all right, let's take a break real quick. This is definitely a good information that we need to get out to everyone. Will be right back and Patty and I will continue this discussion. This is inside the markets. Will be right back. Do you have a topic that you would like to discussed on inside the margins? We would love to hear from you. Please send your thoughts, comments or questions to inside margins at gmailcom. Welcome back to inside the margins. I'm your host, Matt Wilson Petty. Let's go ahead and jump right back into it. Two things that you talked about that I want to key on. Number One, I will quickly touch on that social media topic, because you're absolutely right. Everyone's got their own version of what's happening, but in times like this, which you need are facts. You don't need someone's opinion or someone's speculation and what they think is happening or who, or conspiracy theories or any of that stuff. That stuff is not going to help anyone. That stuff actually body inside even more panic. Which you need is factual information, so you have the real information that you need to go throughout your day with your family. So I think that's important. I'm glad you mentioned that. Make sure you're checking out sides like this DC or the government websites as well. You don't want to rely on facebook or twitter or instagram for your news for per se. There's obviously there's news organizations that do use that as well, but don't listen to your friend Joe who thinks that there's this you know, conspiracy out there. That's not actual factial information. We do and minority report. We will do as many facebook lives as we can. We want to bring you the information. Sure, absolutely know. The frustrating thing for me is so on the nineteen there's a there's a news conference, there's University of Rochester people were. They are like windows. Is there the talking about the testing process and that news comes. If you go to minor report facebook page, you can watch it, but it's almost an hour. So how does any news organization take all that information and condense it into something that it is a reasonable length of time in a reasonable amount of information? Now you can say, well, can't you cut it off and you have a story today, story tomorrow? Well, what we heard Thursday, the basis is going to stay the same. The details around that are going to change right, so that isn't going to be relevant again. In my frustration is my gosh, I wish I just had unlimited resources and you and you are listeners, had an unlimited attention span to be able to digest all of this and and really think about this,...

...because the questions that come up or just you know, we would the media beforehand. One was nice things about having in person news conferences is we all talk to each other and have conversations, go back and sure one thing we all wanted to know was, well, so, say, you get this, and usually having an illness confer some kind of immunity. That's why parents just to send their kids to chicken pox parties. They wanted to get chicken pox. They have some immunity. Do it. Well, when does the immunity kick into? This fascinating question you got to have an answer for. So we ask it and we're told, well, question. We are so far away from even thinking about that kind of question. Right. That's that's the stuff that you need to ask the experts on, not not across the back fence. Oh I had it. So now on immune we don't know's. You know, we digress from helping helping our kids, but that's part of it to take to help help our kids understand what is fact and what is opinion and what is a fact. We don't know yet, right, we know as a fact that's when I do you have an illness, it confers immunity back, but we don't know yet on this disease when that happens. So that's where we have to say, well, can be a little bit of conjecture, but we have to still go back to our facts, right. And you know, another Guy Way to get you information is to make sure you tune in on Monday's at three o'clock to inside the margins. Quick Plug O. WH't your point nine? I had to get it in there. The other thing I did want to talk about is it's a great point in my household, pardon me, I happen to be the only mail. I have two younger daughters, ages three and four, I have a sixteen year old daughter who will be seventeen, and I have my wife and I have myself. So you're right, because I am the only male. Sometimes, just I don't know if it's just nature for me to do it, I feel like I'm supposed to shelter everybody and take care of everybody. It's just a it's just a feeling that I don't know why. I don't know if if something that was put into my brain to be that way now, but I feel that way sometimes and you're right, that can get very stressful, even on men, when you feel like you're the you're the person is supposed to keep all the book the boogeumn and all the bad things out of your household, because everyone relies on you to be the rock. But every once in a while the rocks have some chips in it as well, and it's hard to always be the person who is nothing bothers me and I'll make sure everything is taken care of for you. Sometimes things do bar the you know, and that's and that's Tony Porter's point about the man by said it's interesting. Did you? Did you get the email that I got? You said exactly what his third paraphic you know those are. This is Tony Porter. Those of us who identify as men have received countless messages all our lives over it and subtle, that being a man means, quote, being in control and, quote, we've been socialized to avoid showing vulnerability at all costs, never to ask for help and to devalue the voices of women. These quote, man box traits are dangerous all the time and they're even worse during a global crazy absolutely. Yeah, yeah, so what Tony Porter, and it folks are interesting, did it is a call to men dot org. Is Tony Porter's organization, a call to men DOT org. His suggestions are listened to the experts. He says too often we see men ignore advice because they want to be the expert. So you don't have that many hands going up here. Ask, ask for help if you need it. And he again in the in the context of covid if you're feeling sick, call your doctor. You need help with child care, with anxiety, with anything else, ask for it. He says that's strong. People know when...

...they need help. Another thing about the man boxes. Often men in who are trapped in that man box will not share emotions. And he says that everybody is anxious now and it's okay to be open about your feelings and that can help you connect with other people. And he says that if emotions stay bottled up, they could manifest in other ways, such as anger. Right, and he talks about being being a leader and a teammate. So not necessarily just do it my way, but let's find the way that gets that meets the objective that we need still staying in community. Just because you you have to be six feet away from somebody or you can't, there's no party, doesn't mean that you can't still connect with with people, rest and recharge, take care of yourself. The same thing that advising parents to help their children do and, and this is probably key to is to parent with compassion. Again, to any porter saying that you know, and this this could be the mom box, the dad box, the man box, is it parents of being called upon to guide children through what's consider what's called unprecedented times? We're just that, you know, listen, to listen to what the children need and to be very available to them as a parent, because that they need, that that sheltering. But again, you know, to go back to what the school councilor says, that it is okay to admit. Yeah, you know, there's a lot of stuff I don't know and some some stuff has me a little bit worried, but will you know, we'll figure this out together, right in sense. But but, you know, Tony's talking about that. And the other thing too, is that the outbreak could have a different effect on a marginalized community that it could on the mainstream community. And he also says that violence sometimes spikes during times of isolation and sometimes at home isn't. Isn't a safe place for everyone. And in times when we are forced together with all this anxiety, how how will we going to express our anxiousness and how we going to express our worry in ways that are are healthy for ourselves and for the people who are around us. So that's why I think that that the mental health aspect of covid nineteen. I don't know that. I don't know that we're at a point yet to pay attention to it, but I think it really I think we need to be doing that very suit I told agree with you. I just today I just caught me off card. I was I try to stay up to date of my information as well, so we report accurate stuff. So you know, unfortunately, as you know, being a journalist, Patty, a lot of times your cell phone is always in your hand and you're checking all the message that you're getting. So I was looking down reading a message from another person that I get information from, and my three year old was like, Daddy, why are you sad? I'm like, what do you mean? Maybe I'm not sad, because what you look sad. I wasn't sad. I was just kind of concentrating, my face kind of squish, reading my phone, but she thought I was sad and it and it made her sad and I realize that I'm like wow, that that it's a lot of how I look and I act has that much impact on her. And I know it's tough for them too, because I I'll especially if you have younger children who are in like a preschool environment. Half of the day spent playing with other preschool kids. They're they're doing games, the running around, they're outside. Sometimes they're doing a bunch of stuff playing and nowther got them trapped in your house and they can't and you know, luckily she has her sister, but she doesn't have all of her friends around her and all these teachers that to play. So they get a little depressed. You know too, and you know today we had a luckily up front of ours who lives right next door. She visits, you know, the checkers all the time, which is fantastic. She took my girls for a walk today and then that that made...

...them happy. They came back smiling because they were able to get outdoors and just be outside for a minute. So you're right. If you're in trapped or that trap, but you're just stuck in your house and enclosed areas, that can get to you mentally and that can mess you up and we do need to rely on one another to try to alleviate some of that stress from being stuck in the house, and that is one of the few ways social media can be good. Not to talk about covid rumors, but just stay in touch with your friends. You know, I have a brother in California. Maybe every once in a while just say hey, I saw this picture of uspect when we were, you know, younger, and then he laughs. Those are good things to do. So if using social media in that aspect, that can be beneficial. Right, had sort of the virtual family reunion. You know, if you're right and you know and and share all the pictures. You know, it's funny, Mat because we we just got through a very mild winter, right, right, most usnow was in November, but I mean I don't recall any times really having to be having to be cooked up in the house because of bad ress. That's a good point. I'm going to go out anyway. Right, we think of cabin fever and stuff like that. Is this is the time of year that we are out, we're we're breaking cabin fever. This is a nice time year. People may still be feeling isolated. I can't go to work and you know, you can still go walk around your neighborhood. If you're not under if you know isolation, are right, right. I'm not not feeling well anything, but but this is a time when we're used to be getting out anyway and we feel as though we're stuck in. To mean, I'm starting to call this the blizzard that's never going to head right. It's good. That's actually a very good reference to people going there. And I used to work with the colleague because every time there was a blizzard, people obviously going to make French toes because they were buying bread, bread and milk. There was stocking up on that. Now they're stocking up on toilet paper and and other things. But it is like people getting ready for this blizzard that they have no idea when it would not when it's going to right, right, Yep, and that's the one and that's the thing and you said it. You couldn't say it any clear we don't know, and it's okay to admit that to your family, that you don't know it. You can say, listen, of course I want you to get back to school, of course I want you to have a good time with your friends, but I can't tell you exactly when this is going to end. We may have to hunker down this for a while. So we'll do our best with you while you're here, but I don't have a clear answer for you and I was honest about that with my children. I didn't tell him, Oh yeah, and a month or so will be fine. I didn't want to. I didn't even want to speculate because I have no idea and no one has any idea right now. We don't know when this is going to finally conclude, unfortunately. So we we need to be honest with our family members, with our children, and you say, Hey, for for a little bit of time, this could be the way it is. So we just got to kind of get used to it for now and once it's you know, once it's over, we'll get back to our normal eyes. We got to. This is how we have to deal with it right now, and that's one of the one of the points that learning a body rubensteam from for the water school says, you know, be be honest and accurate. Information is useful. Too much can have the reverse effect. Talking about the facts that we know helps to relate anxiety. Most important way. These are u machines words, be honest and accurate, but not glory. Right. Absolutely. Yeah. So I the message that I guess I want to send out to our listeners is it's this is going to be a tough time. We don't want to sugarcoat that. It's not going to be easy, but we can get through this and you know, if you need assistance, if you need help, if you're feeling stress, reach out to somebody even, you know, call somebody, just let them know. All you feel that way, you're you're still taking care of yourself mentally and you know, exercise. It helps to will. I luckily I bought a stationary bike, so I am able to at least I can't go out. I was actually complete about this, patty, because I know you're very into much at the fitness and I had I had put in two solid months at the gym, Patty, to solid months,...

...and I was seeing results of my muscles are getting firmer and I was wasn't well, am I all right? And then this happened in the gym close I was like a man, but luckily there's still things you can do to work out when you're at home, even if you don't have a stationary bike. You could. There are other ways you can work out as well. So stay active. Don't just sit on the couch all the time. That also will I think, if you just sit down do nothing, that can be the pressing as well. Exactly. I should be cleaning my house, but I you know, I'm going to be here last. But the other thing too, is in a community one lifeline, the actual phone number two hundred and one, is been incredibly busy as people have been calling and the especially see a where to find food, where to find things that they need. But to one one lifetime dot org. If you go online, and I think if you go online, I don't know the text number off hand and I don't want to say the wrong text number on the air, but two, one one, if you you go online and find the website for that, you can send them some emails and get help. Get help that way to if someone's feeling if you're feeling despondent and you need someone to talk to and there's no friend to pick up the phone, and I appreciate that. By the way, I want to give another shout out to you, Patty. You need to visit minory reporter Dotnet or also follow minority on reporter on facebook because, Patty, you have done very magnificent coverage on this. You've been all at allowed the meetings and allow the pressors. You've been there asking questions. I actually was watching live when I heard you in the background, like that's that's my patty singer. That's kind of what I said. So you do great work and everyone needs to check it out because the information that you get, that you get is the most current at the time. So make sure you're following at minority reporter DOTNET. Also you can follow on facebook and if you do have any questions for the good folks at the minority reporter or if you have information yourself or if you have ideas for other stories, we will talk about other things as well, you know, not just covid as, other things happening in the world. So if you have successions for other stories, you can send an email to editor at minority reporter DOTNET. And as well, you can always go to our website. Inside the margins radiocom there are links to the minority reporter and also there are links to listen to past episodes of this show and of course we are on Iheartradio. So wherever you can get I heeart radio, I heart RADIOCOM, using your android, using your iphone, you can use the apple APPs to get it as well. We are very as well. So if you miss it and you want to get your information, just go ahead and go there. And I also put in the ploy that that, you know, a lot of local journalist sites are doing us these days, local journalism. It costs money to bring you these stories right, and so we ask if you if you like what you are hearing and seeing that you support that with your subscript absolutely absolutely. I am I currently, before we even started working with Patty, I subscribed to the minority reporter and the information is very valuable because it's it's it's information that I think it's vital, vital to the community that I that I try to represent the unrepresented, and I think the information that we get there is very important. I think that subscription to me is the me very well and I believe that it can do you well as well. So please support them a reporter and go to the website and subscribe. You can get the digital addition or you could even, I believe, get paper dishes now, is that correct? Rdition, the digital edition, is is, you know, incredibly reasonably, reasonably price. But you know, we look at and all small businesses now are suffering. Yes, this is this is like another little recession for small businesses across this community. It's not just I mean printed journalism outlets have been having you know, we've been looking for a new...

...model for a period of time, but this is for think of the think of us as a small business, which we are. Think of think of your tailor, think of where you go pick up your pizza girls. YEA, the small businesses that you have supported through this time and the difficulties that all small businesses are having now because of basically some people talking young recession and things like that. Just people aren't out as much. So just be aware of supporting, you know, by local, I guess, by I. I. I love that message and I will always have my subscription to the minor reporter. Patty, you always bring us great information. Thank you so much for joining us today. Thank you very much. Stay well. Thank you. Well, we will try to meet live in the future. But you know, just like as we're discussing this software as well, this could be the way we communicate for a while. So it seemed to we're going pretty well. It was good to see your face. So that's that. So thank you so much, Patti. Let's go ahead and take a quick break and we will get back to the show right after this. This is inside the margin. Do you have a topic that you would like to discussed on inside the margins? We would love to hear from you. Please send your thoughts, comments or questions to inside margins at gmailcom. Welcome back to inside the margins. I'm your host, Matt Wilson. So now that one hundred percent of all the central businesses are closed, many of us find ourselves at home. Many of us find ourselves without the ability to physically interact with one another, and that can lead to a sense of isolation and can weigh on your mental health. I know I was. I joked earlier with patty about I had joined a gym and I was seeing some results and you know, all of a sudden the Jim's had to close and I'm like man, that's make it tough right, and it is. You know, I don't have obviously the same stuff at my house as the gym had. I did not build a home Jim in, or do I have the space to build a home gym, but I still got to stay active, still got a walk, I got a stationary bike. You know, do things like that. You the reason why I'm saying these things is mental health is certainly certainly really important right now, because it's very easy to find yourself in a place where you can make yourself depressed very easily. You can't really hang out with your friends, you won't be able to hang out with a lot of your family members, you can't go to the local eateries and pubs and and a lot of place that you normally would go to during normal times, and obviously these are not normal times. So we can't do those things. And social media can be a good thing, but also can be something that that Burns you down as well, because there's so many different political views and people, you know, yelling at each other conspiracy theories, and also you're bombarded with all this covid nineteen stuff twenty four hours a day, seven days a week, and that's why we do say it's very important. Obviously you do want to know what's going on. You need to when breaking news happens, you certainly want to know what's going on. You I I definitely advise you check in with the CDC website or the New York statecom website or, you know, trusted news sites like meant, like the minority reporter, or even ABC,...

NBC, CBS, Those Fox, whatever, all those news sites are probably at least they give you an idea of what's going on. But you know, bobby and Reggie on facebook telling you their conspiracy theories day in a day out, that's probably not the healthiest thing to listen to. To prepare yourself and protect yourself from this virus, you social media to be social. You social media like that, like the FACEBOOK, Scott facetime. You can use facetime to see the people that you can't actually physically see. I'll tell you what, even though Patty was on we use the video conferencing site to to talk for this, for our show today. It was still nice to see her on that video conferencing site because you can see her reactions, you could see my reactions. We still were able to feed off of one another and that's great to eat to still be able to see. We could have we could we could have just done up via phone, right. We could have just done it via phone and we could just talk on the phone, but it's not the same as seeing somebody, and technology today is great for stuff like that because you can still instantly, no matter where your loved one is, see somebody. You can't may not be able to physically go there, but you can see them, and those are the things that social media is good for. Is To is keeping in touch which your loved ones, or like having a social listening party or a social watching party of some sort of movie or social don't even. I'm not. I'm not. I know people don't love drinking and or some people do, but you know, you could even have a happy hour on a social media those are all fine in my opinion. I don't see anything wrong with those. But using social media to, you know, tear down one another, you know just bash public political parts. I will say this too. I'm not going to announce my political affiliation. I never will on the show because it's not a political show. But now isn't the time for political bashing. This is the kind of thing that affects you. If you're a Democrat or Republican, a libertarian and independent or whatever you want to consider yourself, this can harm you. It doesn't matter that the virus is not see politics, doesn't see sex, does this see race. So just remember that all that arguing is unnecessary. This is a time that we should be together trying to defeat this thing so we can go back to our lives where you have the luxury of having your differences, but right now we should be united trying to defeat this thing so we can return to some form of normalcy. Mental health is very, very important. Don't let this virus put you in a place of depression. If you get there, call somebody, let them know how you're feeling. Get some help. And it's going to be hard. It's hard when you're stuck at home. It's hard if you are a person who hasn't, fortunately lost their...

...job but because of this and you have no idea where your finances are going to be coming from for the next who knows how long. It's hard if you're single and you live by yourself and now you're isolated, so now you can't even go see people. It's setter if you're stable parent and you just have you and your child and you're in you rely on daycare to not only watch the children for you to do your job, but also to have a children wants, so you can take care of other things, run errands and maybe even go to the gym, take care of yourself like that. But now you can't do that because you are with your child all the time because more than likely, the school or daycare that your child went to is no longer active and if you're not working, you can't pay for those services anyways. These are all things that can put you in a unhealthy mental place, but we can get through this. Make sure that you talk to the people that you love and stay active. Do Stuff. Do stuff to keep your mind sharp right. If you have a hobby that you like doing, try to do that hobby. Get some work done around the house. If you like to paint, paint, if you like to draw, draw, if you were thinking about starting that podcast, go ahead and start that podcast. Outside is not canceled. Go outside for a walk, for a jog, take a jump rope outside, be active, move around. Now, will admit I'm saying this while wearing my sweat pants and I haven't shape probably and I don't know POW on, but I am. I still try to be active, I still try to get out and I know I'm lucky in a way that I still get to do what I do, and I know people who are very close to me that no longer can do what they do because their jobs are done, and a lot of the jobs, of the other jobs that I do, I can't do either. So I understand, and I do understand about being, you know, stuck in the house and not being able to do so. But just this is the time for you to lean on one another. You need each other to get through this. Talk to each other, use those social media apps to see each other. Use Use the video conferencing sites to talk to each other. If you have a Webcam, if you don't use your phone. Almost all of us have cell phones down with cameras in it. You can use that. Don't lose touch with with one another. We will get through this together. As some of my friends have said, this virus is tough, but we are tougher, all right. That will do it for today's inside the margins. We will still be here for you during this crisis to bring you the news that matters to you locally. Don't forget we have launched our affiliate podcast, rock city showcase. That is available now on I heart radio, on I heart radio APP and also on Iheart RADIOCOM. It will also be on our website inside the margins RADIOCOM. The podcast highlights the best of Rochter businesses, restaurants eat places to drink, the people that make it, the artist singers. We launched a very first podcast and it's creative, it's it just reminds you of all the positive stuff that is going on in Rochester and will go on in Rochter after this. Will check it out store. Rock city showcase podcast available...

...now on I heart radio and also will be available on our website inside the marks radiocom. I want to thank Patty Singer for everything that she does for our show. Forward to see it talking to her again and also make sure you visit the minority report he dot net. Statt Wilson and I will see you next time. Do you have a topic that you would like to discussed on inside the margins? We would love to hear from you. Please send your thoughts, comments or questions to inside margins at gmailcom.

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